Young and in Love: Challenging the Unnecessary Delay of Marriage
by Ted Cunningham
Is falling in love and getting married young a sure red flag and a precursor to divorce? Ted Cunningham doesn’t think so. In Young and in Love, he writes that age isn’t the thing that causes divorces; immaturity is. He writes his book to young people who want to get married and are facing an uphill battle from parents and society that tell them to make sure their careers are settled first, encouraging them to find and display maturity.
First off, I love Cunningham’s thesis:
While there are many valid reasons to delay marriage, your age should not be on that list. Marriages fall apart for all sorts of reasons: unmet expectations, unrealistic expectations, buying into the “soul mate” myth, prolonged adolescence, lack of commitment, and a culture that devalues marriage. But to say those all go away with age is a fallacy. The issue is maturity, not age. (22)