Joseph had every right to be angry. His fiance was pregnant, and he knew it wasn’t his. They’d never had sex. They’d never done anything that could in any way get her pregnant. She disappeared for three months to “visit family” and when she got back she was pregnant.
He could have made her life hell. He could have taken her to court. He could have ruined her reputation. He could even have had her stoned.
He didn’t. Yes, he was hurt, but he chose to simply let her go quietly.
He treated her with grace.
And then Joseph had a dream. An angel told him, “Hey, don’t worry about Mary. She didn’t cheat on you. That baby is from God himself. Marry her, just like you planned. Name the baby Jesus.”
And that’s what Joseph did. Can you imagine? His friends probably knew what was going on. They probably had opinions. It meant that either Joseph slept with her before they got married—a big no-no!–or he was going to raise another man’s son with a woman that had cheated on him. Either way, by staying with her, he was opening himself up to intense mockery, and possibly a lot worse.
Joseph took on Mary’s shame.
And then after they got married… Joseph didn’t have sex with his new wife until after Jesus was born. It’s likely that Joseph was between the ages of 18 and 21, the average age of marriage in Jewish society at that time. Can you imagine an 18-year-old guy waiting for sex when it was allowed and even encouraged in that culture?
Joseph showed patience.
You can read all about this in Matthew 1:18-25. It’s Jesus’s birth from Joseph’s perspective. We’re often more familiar with the account from Luke 2, which tells the same history from Mary’s perspective.
But I wanted to focus on Joseph for just a moment. God could have chosen any man to raise his Son. He chose a man who reflected his relationship with us.
God could punish us. Instead, he treats us with grace. He could point out our shame. Instead, he takes on our shame. He could tell us to just do what he commands. Instead, he is patient with us.
In other words, God is everything a father is supposed to be.
This Christmas, look with wonder on the grace God gives to us. Thank him for his grace. Thank him for taking our shame. Thank him for his patience.
Merry Christmas.